Karen, I've never heard of that show! I'll have to look it up since I'm sure it's got to be rather entertaining. Yes, I bet my Tonkinese would fit in quite well for a show like that!
Yes, he's fixed. That's a good idea about the Feliway. I've heard of it and I think we even tried it years ago for a different situation with our now deceased cats (it didn't work then for the problem). But it just might work in this situation - it wouldn't hurt to try. The Tonk is very, very interested in how the Bengal SMELLS! And he even goes around rubbing (marking) every single place she's rubbed on. Plus wherever she's been laying, that is EXACTLY where he, all of a sudden, MUST lay! He's a real trip.
Our DSH, just has learned to get out of the Tonk's way asap. If the DSH is being petted on the couch by me, as soon as he sees the Tonk eyeing him, he gets down and walks away because he knows he's going to be attacked otherwise. Sometimes he gets attacked anyway - just as a reminder, I suppose!