Well, I have given this allot of thought over the years, with our girls, and as how I came to be with the way I treat and feel towards animals. I think the first thing, its just to present the right example. Most children mimic their parents. Secondly, anytime your child does anything you consider unkind, stop her, explain why its bad, and show her a better way, To pet a cat, dig, our whatever it may be. Then make sure to lead by example. I remember running around as a child, scaring the cats we had, and then watching how my mom acted around and with them.