Ram, my female cat is kind of in between the previous 3 cats I spoke of & these current 3, which she is part of, of course. We used to declaw all our cats. The first female died quite young (barely 7 years) of kidney failure & we bought this current female (my Bengal), and had her declawed since we'd declawed the 2 remaining older male cats she was joining. She got along well with both males and there was a lovely harmony in our household of cats while they were together. Then the two older males died and we bought a Tonkinese male kitten & adopted a domestic male kitten from a shelter. We were persuaded at this time to no longer declaw our cats. So my declawed Bengal has always been at the mercy of my tiny, fully-clawed Tonk. He is merciless and she has several scars on her beautiful face from his unprovoked attacks. They despise each other.
I do keep her often locked up in a separate room, and always do this when I am leaving the house. She enjoys her "private room." I don't have any sympathy (cold, aren't I?! haha) for my 20 lb fully-clawed domestic male cat who can't seem to defend himself against the tiny, 8 lb dominant male (all muscle & very, very tiny. He's the size of a 6 month old kitten). My husband says the big cat is "a lover, not a fighter." Well, too bad! He needs to "man up!" He was specifically adopted to be the companion of my Tonk on the advice of a veterinarian when we were distressed at how vicious the Tonk kitten was towards our older, much bigger Bengal cat. We were told if he had another kitten to play with, he'd leave the old Bengal alone. It didn't work out that way - he terrorizes BOTH of them! *heavy sigh* The 2 males do sometimes play with & groom each other though.
Evilsprinkles, yes the water sprayer bottle is a staple in our household! The Tonk hates that & it's the only thing he really fears! I used it a couple times on the Bengal - but she doesn't mind water. It had no effect on her - she just enjoyed licking it off her fur!
