I have a real problem with this sometimes. People often don't just glance at me when I walk by. Instead, they stare. For me, this is not a comfortable place to be. Now your average animal has the sense to look away when you meet its eyes but humans are not necessarily that polite, I've noticed. This happens with little children a lot. They will openly stare as if I had just grown a weird second head on top of the first one. I try to ignore the kids, but it's a lot harder with adults. They glance my way again, and again, until I can't help but notice. Now the question to ask yourself is this: Since I am noticing the attention, are they staring at me, or am I staring at them? I never know whether to take it as an insult or as a compliment, to be honest. I usually lean toward the insult realm but that's just because I was bullied as a kid, and as a result, that's how I tend to think. I wonder if my hair looks awful or if I have something stuck in my teeth, or if I have a huge stain on my shirt. Naturally, I assume the worst in every situation. I am terrified to actually ask them what they're staring at because anyone rude enough to openly stare, is also rude enough to answer. I ask my husband if I have food on my face or something, and he always tells me I'm gorgeous. Okay, so he's a bit on the biased side, but I get the sense that the staring has nothing to do with admiring beauty. Instead, I'm absolutely positive that something is horribly wrong and as usual, I'm the last one to know. Do you folks ever get these feelings? I know everyone gets stared at sometimes, but what is your attitude when it happens? Do you feel like disappearing like I do, or do you just roll with it and give them a reason to stare? I'm curious as to how others react to staring.
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