Fishbone, that cracks me up! ;-) But you are right - there is always a dominant cat in a multi-cat household. For us, it's the teensy weenie 8 lb Tonkinese. The only one he absolutely cannot dominate is my husband, who strongly dislikes this particular cat!
befree, our cats usually can share a close space on the furniture. Sometimes they're like your cat though and will move if I sit down next to them. My Bengal will not sit next to my husband no matter how hard he tries to coax her. It's hard to figure her out because she will seek him for petting her on the floor by his legs, but she refuses to ever sit near him on the couch. She will only sit by me, but it can take an extremely long time to get her to do so, unless it's cold, then she likes curling up beside me. The Tonk wants in my lap at all times. The DSH wants to sit by me & get petted, but he's almost given up trying since as soon as the Tonk sees him by me, he gets attacked. The DSH is now pretty much the husband's cat. The Tonk knows not to mess with the others around the hubby!
