How can I make new cat love me?!

I agree with the above comments, let her come to you. I remember when I was younger I would get upset when a cat would go to my dad or grandpa instead of me. I would try and give them so much attention and love and affection and they would instead go to my grandpa who would just sit quietly and wait for them to come to him. I learned that sometimes pets, especially cats, can get a little overwhelmed by too much...affection. Remember the character Elmyra(?) from Tiny Toons? That's how I picture it, lol.