Have you ever had to change something you do because it causes anxiety, aggression, or other behavior problems with your dog? And, did it improve your relationship with your dog or his/her behavior?
My dog went through a mini nervous breakdown at 1 year old after my Dad died and we had to move. It took me several months to earn back her respect and get her to trust people again.
One problem lingered. She would nip and growl at me sometimes when I picked her up (she is a 9 lb. Jack Russell). We had repeated confrontations over the year and half.
Recently, it dawned on me that my dog doesn't really like being picked up (big surprise, eh?). She likes being held and she likes sitting on your lap, but she doesn't like to be lifted off the ground by a human. That made me think about my interactions with her. Would I be trying to pick her up if she was a 70 lb dog? Certainly not! I never tried to grab my Lab in this way. It was physically impossible.
So, I've changed my approach. It appears she doesn't want to be a lap dog. She wants to be a Lab  So, I treat her like a big dog unless there is some reason, like danger or necessity, where I need to pick her up. I greet her on the ground like I would a bigger dog. I pet her on the ground. I don't pick her up just because I want to hold her. I invite her on my lap, then jumps up to me. It isn't that I avoid picking her up, but I choose my situations. She is easy to train. I'd like to teach her to jump into my arms, then she'll feel like she is doing it.
I have to say that it has improved things considerably. The confrontations are getting father apart. She seems to be trusting me more. I think this approach is going to work out really well.
Have you ever been through a situation like this where you changed your approach or your behavior and that made things better between you and your dog?
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